Unblock your fears by a simple question

I once saw a picture that made me ponder so many years after that.

A picture of a bird in a cage with the door wide open.

Looking up at the sky and seeing their friends taste the joy of freedom, the bird wonders if it is capable of flying or not.

For a long time living in a tiny slice which I like to call "slowly deadly seductive prison", it forgets the whole essence of a bird: Flying.

The door is wildly opened but the bird lets fears block it from living the life it is meant to live.

If just for a moment, the bird asks itself:

"Is it true that I cannot fly?"

It will change the whole game.

Everything first starts with the self - awareness.

A few years ago, like that bird, I questioned my ability to fly over the blue sky. I was insecure, lack of confident, scared of everything. I hid my light, compared myself to others and neglected parts of myself. I self - sabotaged by the fears of being abandoned, judged and laughed at.

It took me painful experiences to learn the lesson.

I learned to question myself.

Instead of playing the role of a victim by saying: "Why am I so useless?", "I am not skillful enough to follow my dream", "If I do it, they will judge me!", I gently asked myself:

"Is it true that I am useless?"

"Is it true that I need to be skillful enough to start following my dream?"

"Is it true that they will ALL judge me?"

Is it absolutely true? Can I tell, just only for one tiny possibility, that it is not absolute the truth?

My life started to change since then.

One thing leads to the other, now, I become more grounded and confident. I can give the public speaking in front of so many people. I learn to love, not my perfect self, but my real imperfect self. I created my own blog, started writing. I am planning to launch my own business next year with coaching programs for my ambitious and courageous clients around the world. And so much more!

All of those amazing things happened in just a short period of time.

I came to realize that when I allow myself to expose my authentic self and live the life my soul is calling, everything flows out naturally, from the inside.

Because all along, I have always known how to fly, since I was born. No one clipped my wings.

Everything first starts with the self - awareness.

The quality of your life depends on the quality of the questions you ask yourself.

Choose it wisely.

What is your wildest dream?

And what fears are keeping you from that dream? Is it absolutely the truth?

I will leave these questions for you.

I owe this line to Susan A David Ph.D in her inspiring Ted Talk:

"Courage is not the absence of fears

Courage is fear walking."

Finally, with so much love, I give you a beautiful poem written by Abdullah Shoaib (make sure to read it all)

I am very ugly

So don't try to convince me that

I am a very beautiful person

Because at the end of the day

I hate myself in every single day

And I 'm not going to lie to myself by saying

There is beauty inside of me that matters

So rest assured I will remind myself

That I am worthless, terrible person

And nothing you say will make me believe

I still deserve love

Because no matter what

I am not good enough to be loved

And I am in no position to believe that

Beauty does exist within me

Because whenever I look in the mirror I always think

Am I as ugly as people say?

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Love,

Katherine